Mon Amie's Solutions · Professional Development
When
Winning
Hurts
A trauma-informed professional development course for coaches, parents, and athletic leaders who believe that how we treat young athletes matters as much as how we train them.
When Winning Hurts: Complete Course
One-time payment · Lifetime access
- ✓14 fully developed course modules
- ✓Reflection questions in every module
- ✓Trauma-informed frameworks & tools
- ✓Research citations & references
- ✓Certificate of completion
- ✓Immediate, unlimited access
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Something Is Wrong on the Field
Youth sports are supposed to build kids up. But for too many young athletes, what's happening on the field, in the gym, and on the court is leaving lasting marks — not medals. And most of us don't have the language to name it.
The Silence Is Deafening
Athletes fear speaking up. Parents fear retaliation. Administrators protect the program. Meanwhile, harmful behavior continues — normalized as "discipline" or "just how sports work."
The Damage Is Real
Fear-based coaching doesn't just hurt feelings — it rewires developing brains. Anxiety, loss of confidence, social withdrawal, and burnout are the documented outcomes of emotionally unsafe sports environments.
The Cycle Repeats
Most coaches coach the way they were coached. Without new tools and a new framework, the patterns that caused harm keep getting passed down — generation after generation.
This Course Is for Everyone in the Village
It takes a village to raise a child. It also takes a village to protect one. This course was built for every adult who plays a role in a young athlete's life.
Youth Coaches
You became a coach because you love the game and you love kids. This course gives you the framework to be the kind of coach your athletes will thank — not recover from.
Parents of Athletes
You know something feels off but you can't name it — or you're not sure if you're overreacting. This course helps you recognize what healthy coaching looks like and how to advocate for your child.
Athletic Directors & Admins
Culture starts at the top. This course equips you to build programs, policies, and accountability structures that put athlete wellbeing where it belongs — at the center.
"If it breaks a child's spirit, it's not coaching. It's harm."
— When Winning Hurts
14 Modules. One Transformative Shift.
Each module builds on the last — moving from understanding the problem, to the science behind it, to practical tools for creating change in your own program or home.
The Dual Nature of Sports
Why sports are both the best and worst environments for child development — and what determines which one they become.
How Common Is This?
The scope of emotional abuse in youth sports and why it stays hidden in plain sight.
Defining Toxic Coaching Behaviors
Six specific behaviors that cross the line from demanding to harmful — named clearly and without excuse.
The Adolescent Brain & Mental Health
What's actually happening neurologically when a young athlete is coached through fear.
Emotional & Social Consequences
Anxiety, withdrawal, loss of motivation — how toxic coaching follows athletes off the field.
Why Coaches Cross the Line
Understanding — not excusing — the four reasons harmful patterns persist in coaching culture.
The Science of Trauma in Sports
Fight, flight, freeze — and what a screaming coach actually does to a developing nervous system.
Building Emotionally Safe Programs
Practical frameworks for communication, discipline, and confidence-building that actually work.
Coaching Ethics & Emotional Safety
The moral dimension of coaching authority and what it demands of those who hold it.
Trauma-Informed Coaching as Advocacy
Control-based vs. connection-based coaching — a clear, honest comparison.
Education & Mental Health Literacy
How to build partnerships with mental health professionals and bring parents into the work.
Advocacy in Action
Real community and organizational models — including SafeSport, Positive Coaching Alliance, and O-Zone Athletics.
Coaching Reform as Prevention
Four systemic levers for lasting change: certification, mentorship, accountability, and athlete voice.
Reimagining Success
What happens when we redefine winning to include the whole child — and why it produces better athletes anyway.
Everything You Need to Make the Shift
This isn't a slide deck you scroll through and forget. Every module is built for reflection, application, and real change.
14 Full Modules
Rich, research-backed lesson content that goes well beyond bullet points into real narrative and context.
Reflection Questions
Three thoughtful prompts in every module designed to move knowledge from your head into your actual practice.
Trauma Science Explained
The neuroscience of fear-based coaching — made accessible for coaches and parents, not just researchers.
Practical Frameworks
Actionable tools including the trauma-informed vs. traditional coaching comparison, action steps, and reform levers.
Full Reference List
All research citations included — so you can go deeper or share the evidence with others in your organization.
Certificate of Completion
A professional development certificate upon finishing all 14 modules — shareable and printable.
Go Deeper
This course pairs beautifully with two books that explore athlete anxiety from the parent and athlete perspective. Together they give you the complete picture.
Companion Book
The Anxious Athlete
Explores the inner experience of the anxious athlete — what they're feeling, why, and how the adults around them can help instead of hurt. A powerful companion to this course's coaching perspective.
Get the Book →Companion Book
Raising an Anxious Athlete
Written for parents navigating sports anxiety in their kids — how to support without adding pressure, and how to be the steady presence your young athlete needs most. Essential reading for any sports parent.
Get the Book →Available through our partner store at O-Zone Athletics.
Built by the Village
Mon Amie's Solutions is a trauma-informed, community-focused organization based in Bossier City, Louisiana — and the only organization in the ArkLaTex region connecting youth development, mental wellness, and community education under one roof.
This course was built from the ground up using current peer-reviewed research on emotional abuse in youth sports, trauma-informed coaching practices, and adolescent development. It reflects the same values that drive everything we do: restoring hope, removing barriers, and creating spaces where people can thrive.
We believe it takes a village to raise a child. This course is how we strengthen the whole village.
🏘️ Serving the ArkLaTex region since 2017
🧠 Trauma-informed across all programs and services
🤝 Community partner with O-Zone Athletics
The Village Needs You
Every coach, parent, and administrator who completes this course becomes part of a growing movement of adults who refuse to let harmful patterns go unchallenged. Your athletes are worth it.
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